How to Appreciate Yourself More as a Father

01/27/2021 R.C. Liley Leave a comment

You’ve worked hard to provide a comfortable life to your family, your kids and wife adore you, and you are always there to help and encourage your friends and relatives. But do you ever pause and think about yourself? When is the last time you appreciated or took care of yourself? Every day, your wife tells you what a great husband and father you are and your boss is always smiling at you. This indicates that you are doing a great job in every area of your life. Most responsible men do an excellent job of meeting everyone else’s needs but theirs. Today take the time and do something for yourself, not your family or your boss.

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Buy Yourself a Gift

Probably the only gifts you receive are from your family and close friends but think about gifting yourself. Buy yourself something you love, or go on a vacation or do anything else you’ve always wanted. Don’t feel guilty about spending money or time on your happiness. If you love cars, check out Hyundai Santa Fe for Sale, buy yourself a better car, or great shoe or outfit. Whatever gift would make you happiest, go for it. You don’t have to consult anyone, but let your family know that you gifted yourself. You’ve been working hard, and a little self-appreciation is essential.

Stop Being Harsh On Yourself

You probably had goals and a timeframe, but you haven’t achieved all of them on time. Instead of judging yourself harshly, look at the accomplishments and understand the reasons that hindered your progress. If you wanted to buy a bigger house for your family in five years or start a business but haven’t, there is still time to do it. Maybe you gave yourself little time, or other responsibilities such as the arrival of a baby hindered or slowed down the progress. You can still go back to your goals and work hard to achieve them but most importantly, appreciate yourself for what you accomplish every day. You’ve managed to bring up a happy family, that’s more than enough.

Accept/Receive Appreciation

It’s not easy to accept appreciation. Most times, you feel like you don’t deserve it. If you’ve worked hard and your boss rewarded you with a few days holiday or a complimentary ticket to a destination of your choice, don’t feel guilty spending all that time and money on yourself. If others acknowledge your hard work, internalize the appreciation and believe you deserve it. Don’t brush off a compliment but smile, say thank you and believe you earned it. It will boost your self-worth.

Appreciate Your Life

You are in good physical, financial, emotional and mental health, and you have a happy family living a comfortable life, appreciate that every day. Take time to identify the blessings in your life and be thankful. Play and admire your kids, reflect on the progress you’ve made over the years and even embrace the mistakes because they are learning platforms. Appreciating yourself means you don’t have to wait for others approval or praise. You know your worth and don’t tear yourself down when you make mistakes or take too long to achieve your goals.

Life, Lifestyle

A Romantic Relationship Between a Student and a Teacher: Is It Ever Acceptable?

01/27/2021 R.C. Liley Leave a comment

You may have heard stories of people who have ended up in intimate student-teacher relationships. When a story like this surfaces, it usually hits the news feeds quickly and usually results in the teacher being prosecuted, placed on a register, and losing their jobs. However, is this always going to be the case?

Today, we’re going to look into whether a student-teacher romantic relationship will ever be okay. In your head now, you may be thinking of situations where it could be thanks to some of the variables, so let’s dive in and clear up any grey areas that may exist.

The Short Answer

No, basically. A student to teacher relationship will never be legally okay in the US. Looking at the facts and the law, anybody needs to be at least over the age of 18 to even legally consent to be in a relationship with an adult. This means all traditional student ages from pre-school up to the college ages of 18 will be illegal. This is because there are never teachers under the age of 18, meaning they are all adults.

This means that a romantic relationship between a teacher and student under the age of 18 is a criminal offense and can be charged with sexual abuse or a crime of a similar nature, and cases will require sex crime lawyers who offer effective representation.

This is important to note because some students may want a relationship and will spread they are in one with a teacher, even if they are not. However, despite being a lie, these cases are taken very seriously and will need to be dealt with properly through the approaching court of law processes.

What If the Student is Over 18?

If both the teacher and the student are over the age of 18, then both are able to legally consent to be in a relationship with one another by law. However, many schools and educational facilities will have policies and codes of conduct that prevent this from happening.

Whether you’re a teacher or student, you need to check the policy of the school you’re in to ensure you’re not breaking the rules. If you do, this can result in the teacher losing their job and the student being expelled. Remember, student-teacher relationships do not just affect the people in the relationship.

Any dramas in the relationship may spread around the school and can cause many problems within friend groups. Imagine a female student breaking up with her male teacher partner and the teacher exacting revenge by failing the student and making her life a misery.

Imagine the other students who think that the preferred partner has an unfair advantage against all the other students due to favoritism. It’s a complex subject with many variables, and in most cases, should simply be avoided at all costs.

Summary

As you can see, there are many grey areas as to whether a student and a teacher can get together or not, and extreme caution should be taken if approaching a situation like this. While at the discretion of the people involved, it takes time to think about the issues first, and this is a highly advised thing to do.

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Need Help Keeping Health On The Straight And Narrow? That’s What Friends Are For

01/21/2021 R.C. Liley Leave a comment

In theory, no one knows our health better than us. Hence why, when someone else suggests that something is going on, we often react with outright denial or even annoyance. How dare they assume to know better than you do? Whose body is it anyway!?!

The trouble is that, while we certainly have an inner window into our body’s workings, it’s astounding how often we remain blind to certain issues that our friends and family spot from miles away.

To make sure that you don’t cast your friend’s concerns aside next time they suggest all is not well, consider the following reasons why they might just be in the ideal position to spot health problems that you never could.

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They’re objective

Objectivity is often key, especially where health is concerned. When we have a personal investment, we often either overlook or underestimate escalating issues. In some cases, this can be because we’re afraid of what symptoms mean, or embarrassed by the pain-based mood swings that we swear aren’t happening. And, of course, we’re sometimes just so busy that we overlook issues entirely.

Our friends can overcome these setbacks to see your health concerns with their eyes wide open. They have no reason to deny or overlook, and they’re surely more observant of you than you are of yourself sometimes. Thus, they’re actually in the ideal position to make you aware of the things that have been going wrong with your body right in front of your eyes.

They’re more likely to pick up subtle changes

Along roughly the same lines, our friends and family are also in the best position to pick up subtle changes that we would simply never notice otherwise. For example, loved ones are best able to spot issues such as gradual weight loss that’s escaped our attention. Equally, family members are best placed to pick up on progressive hearing issues caused by acute tinnitus and the like. Yet, much like when you fail to notice a baby growing because you’re with them every day, you’d probably struggle to pick up on the same subtle changes.

They care

Nobody should care for our health more than ourselves, but that’s rarely the case. In fact, even if you have the best of intentions, the chances are that don’t always treat your body well. Health complaints and the limitations they bring can cause us to be especially unkind to ourselves, pushing well past the point that we probably should.

By comparison, the other people in our lives may well care much more, or at least be better able to show it, that we look after ourselves. As such, they can be in the best position to push us into booking that hearing or dental checkup, as well as holding us accountable for what we eat, and whether we exercise.

We understand feeling frustrated when people try to tell you what’s what with your health. But, next time that your loved ones speak out about their concerns, you may well benefit from listening.