All posts by R.C. Liley

I'm an ex-mutual fund accountant who left the cubicle world to be a stay-at-home dad to my beautiful little girl, Avery, who entered our life on 11/15/13. Also happily married to my wife, Kelley, for 7 years as of 8/17/14. Sorry ladies... :) Fitness and nutrition is of the upmost importance in our family and we strive to reflect this in our daily life. I always prepare our meals at home and only go out if it's a special occasion, and even then I tend to not get much. Food should be fun and a joy to eat, not something quickly consumed from a fast food chain or scarf down before the next meeting. I have come from strictly logging high miles to train for the next marathon to keeping exercise varied and focusing more on strength. I still enjoy going for a run when I can, but nothing crazy, and I prefer hill sprints while pushing my daughter, Avery in the stroller. She loves it and I get a great workout! I want to show the world how to appreciate their body and feed it real, wholesome food while moving more throughout the day. In doing so, everyone would be healthier, happier, and we'd all live in a better place as a result. I blog mainly about my life as a stay-at-home dad and frequently include reviews, participate in campaigns, and share my thoughts on fitness and nutrition. If you ever have any questions or thoughts to share, please reach out as I'm always open to listening or helping others however possible. That is, when I have free time since Avery is and my wife are the number one priorities!

How to Piss Off Your Baby

Our Sunday was off to a great start, Avery slept the longest ever in her crib and then slept a little longer with us. We even slept in an extra hour!

She woke up pretty happy and flashing us smiles, so we were hopeful for a good day ahead. Wrong.

First off, I proceeded to try and feed her a bottle. This is a no-no when mom is home because, being the smart baby she is, knows there’s a much better source of food hanging around. Pun intended, sorry Kelley.

Being one who doesn’t take no easily, I was a little too persistent in trying to feed her the bottle until she just got upset. After trying to hold her in several positions to see if that would help, Kelley finally just gave her the good stuff. We only try to use the bottles since that’s the main food source when Kelley is not here, and we have so many bottles in the fridge that can’t go to waste. We’re backlogged with breast milk!

Once enough time passed, we put Avery down for her morning nap which she didn’t resist too much. She had a couple crying sessions within two hours that Kelley was able to go and soothe her back to sleep. Overall, she had maybe one and half hours of sleep; the most she’d get this day.

After making breakfast for Kelley and myself, we decided to get our shopping out of the way. So, we packed the diaper bag, put Avery in her car seat and we were off.

Instant fussiness and crying followed as we began our trip, but that didn’t stop us from going to Starbucks first. I got a black coffee and Kelley had the same, but decaf. Back on the road with Avery still protesting, our first stop was Babies “R” Us to return some items and look at bouncers. Avery had calmed down, so I just carried her in the car seat.

The whole time inside, she didn’t fuss at all, but once she was back in the car, the crying ensued. Next stop, Costco. But first, another Starbucks run. I have a member card which allows for free refills, so I always go back at least 3 times to help get my money’s worth of the other black gold.

I wore Avery in the Baby Bjorn as usual in Costco, and she was pretty good while inside here too. Maybe a little whine, but then she just chewed on the carrier and stared at the big warehouse lights. She finally fell asleep……as we were going to check out. So, ten minutes later, she was rudely awakened by dad putting her back in the car once more. But, in dad’s defense, it didn’t help that Kelley tried to strap her in the wrong way which made it uncomfortable until we fixed it. Sorry, Avery.

Almost done, we only had one more grocery trip to Sprouts! But, can you guess? Another stop at Starbucks on the way! Poor Kelley sat in the back trying to feed Avery a bottle, but she was not having it. Again, she’s thinking “Why would mom feed me a bottle?” So, she just cried. All the while, several hours had passed and no substantial nap has occurred.

Inside Sprouts with Avery in the Baby Bjorn, she pretty much just cried and kicked her legs as much as possible. I felt pretty cool perusing each aisle as if nothing was wrong while a baby was screaming in my face. Staring, although very, very annoying, was understandable.

Thirty minutes later, Avery still crying, we packed ourselves in the Outback (big Subaru fans here!) and eagerly headed home. Kelley sat in the back and tried once more to offer Avery the bottle. Maybe she was just finally hungry enough, or too tired to fight it, or maybe the sun shining in her eyes didn’t allow her to know who was feeding her, but she took the bottle. Then she fell asleep with it in her mouth on minutes later.

Milk-covered face and asleep in car seat.
Milk-covered face and asleep in car seat.

This is the down side of living close to most places, the drives are not that long. Yeah, of course we LOVED this before becoming parents, and still love it overall, but when you have a sleeping baby, you want the ride to last a while. Once home, I carried Avery still in the car seat and set her in her nursery hoping to make the nap last. Nope, five minutes later and the eyes were open.

Again, I insisted on feeding her the bottle, which she refused, multiple times. And again, we finally caved and Kelley offered what I can never give. I’m okay with this, by the way; that would be weird.

We decided to go for a little family run together after this. Kelley has been wanting to get back into running, and I wanted to come along while pushing Avery in the B.O.B. stroller. I also wore a 20lb vest since I have a problem of going too much ahead of Kelley. At first, there was no crying, but it wasn’t long and Avery was back at it letting the neighborhood know her lungs are pretty well developed.

I am fairly sure that going faster helps Avery settle down, so I eventually just went ahead and let Kelley enjoy a quiet run. Avery fell asleep within minutes after picking up the pace, so I passed our house and told Kelley to meet me down the road while I went down and back up a hill just torture myself.

We walked together enjoying the peace of a sleeping baby (finally) for maybe 30 minutes before she woke up again. I tried running a little more but she just cried. Then, back at home, I tried giving her a bottle again. When will I learn? Never, I’m just too stubborn.

As you’d expect she fussed and cried until mom gave in and made her peace offering via boob. The rest of the night went on with mostly fussing, but she did give us a lot of “talking” and smiles too. Between taking out the trash, making dinner for Kelley and myself, and bathing Avery, she was whining the majority of the time. Finally, after her bath (and crying), Kelley held her and got her to sleep for the night.

Phew! If you’re still reading, thank you! Basically, just don’t provide your baby any time for a good nap during the day and you’re sure to have one pissed off baby. Add repeated attempts at bottle feeding when mommy is around, and you should watch your back when baby can walk/crawl!

Sure, it wasn’t the most pleasant Sunday, but it was still our little family being together, so that was the silver lining. Plus, Kelley is off work tomorrow so we get another day together! This time, we are not going anywhere and will make sure Avery gets some good naps in. Maybe we’ll take a few with her…

Ever have “one of those days” with your baby?
Any good tips on how to make several store trips and keep baby happy or is it a futile attempt?

When Will the Pictures Stop?

We made a trip to Nana and Papa’s (Kelley’s parents) house yesterday to visit, well, Nana and Papa. It was Avery’s official crossing into being a 3 month old and obviously that’s huge! Maybe I’m a little biased as her parent, but isn’t that just a part of being a parent?

It was a pleasant time at Avery’s Nana and Papa’s house and her Nana got to hold her, feed her, and even got her to nap a little. Kelley and I took advantage and went for a nice walk together. The little things are so much bigger now!

Before the trip, we had a photo session with Avery sitting in her nursery chair next to a stuffed animal bear. We did this for her first and second month on earth too, and will probably do it for several more months.

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1 Month
2 Months
2 Months
3 Months
3 Months

As Kelley and I sat there waving our hands and making weird noises trying to get a smile out of our “big” girl, I had to ask, “When is this too much?” I know Avery is only a baby, but I feel even she was getting annoyed with our silly cackles and coos used in an effort for a smile. Maybe she’d just like to see mom’s or dad’s face not behind a camera.

After I considered this for a minute, I then continued to make stupid sounding noises and take multiple shots in hopes that one of them will capture a smile. We were able to get several good ones out of our marathon photo session, so in the end, it was worth it to us.

Looking forward, I can only imagine our photo frenzy will become greater as more lifetime events happen. This is great and I hope we are able to capture all of her big experiences via pictures and video to relive them as much as we’d like for years to come. But, I also hope we don’t get so wrapped up into “getting the shot” that we totally miss out on the real life experience.

I don’t want to be “the guy” behind the camera as Avery takes her first steps, I want to be Daddy holding her hand and standing by her side for assistance and encouragement. It might sound easy enough to do this if that’s what I want, but constantly find myself pushing my limits with a camera in Avery’s face. I have to keep myself in check and make sure to just enjoy the moment, sans cameras.

Having said that, I’ll still be taking plenty of pictures, just not getting too pushy about having her smile for everyone and making the session last forever.

One reason why it's hard to stop taking pictures.
One reason why it’s hard to stop taking pictures.

Avery, if you’re reading this one day, I hope you have many wonderful memories of mom and dad being there and enjoying life with you. In the end, memories will always beat what’s on film….or, I guess memory card now.

Any other parents find themselves getting caught up in trying to take a great picture instead of just living in the moment?

A Note to Avery’s Bottom Lip

Today marks Avery’s 3rd month in this world and our 3rd month as parents. I still have a long road ahead as Going Dad, but I’m more excited than ever before!

Woombie_Avery_Sad Face, bottom lip, note, kids, parenting, funny

Lately, Avery has developed a keen use of her bottom lip which is usually a tell-tale sign that an outburst of tears is fast approaching. Sometimes we can act fast and just do something random which will prevent the floodgates from opening, but we’re usually not that lucky.

One thing’s for sure, that lip is trouble, so I’d like to write a little note…..

Dear Avery’s Bottom Lip,

I don’t know who you think you are, but you are making our irresistibly cute baby girl even MORE irresistibly cute. This might sound like a good thing we should thank you for, but on the contrary, I sense the problems you will cause in the future.

As Avery grows older and gets into trouble, I fear you will be there to bail her out.

Messy room? No problem, just flip the lip over and daddy will surely forgive her and pick up the mess himself. Talking back to teacher at school? Easy fix, roll out the lip and it’s obviously a mistake because she didn’t know calling someone stupid was a bad thing and hurtful.

Then in the later years as boys enter the picture and she gets caught sneaking out, you’ll come to the rescue convincing Kelley and me that she was simply trying to get some fresh air by opening her window and no one else was there.

You can see where I’m going, you’re going to cause us trouble for quite some time, aren’t you? How about we have a truce? 

Since it’s just so cute to see Avery with you flipped down so much a bird could sit on you, you are welcome to stay. But, if, and only if, you stay up for the major offenses and don’t make it any harder for us to discipline when needed.

Deal? I’m counting on you to work with us here, so please, do as I ask.

Sincerely,

Avery’s Dad

Avery_Evil Bottom Lip

Hopefully this note will help and Avery’s bottom lip won’t “turn” against us. But, I know some lips can be really cold and crack, so I’ll be on constant alert.

Avery, we love you and hope you never have to use that evil, but so freakin’ cute bottom lip of yours to get out of trouble! Hope you’ve had a great 3 months so far and enjoy the many years to come with us!

Do your kids have a certain quality that you fear will get them out of trouble or it already does?