All posts by R.C. Liley

I'm an ex-mutual fund accountant who left the cubicle world to be a stay-at-home dad to my beautiful little girl, Avery, who entered our life on 11/15/13 and handsome little boy, Wes, who joined our family on 11/19/17. Also happily married to my wife, Kelley, as of 8/17/07. Sorry ladies... :) Fitness and nutrition is of the utmost importance in our family and we strive to reflect this in our daily life. I always prepare our meals at home and only go out if it's a special occasion, and even then I tend to not get much. Food should be fun and a joy to eat, not something quickly consumed from a fast food chain or scarf down before the next meeting. I have come from strictly logging high miles to train for the next marathon to keeping exercise varied and focusing more on strength. I still enjoy going for a run when I can, but nothing crazy, and I prefer hill sprints while pushing my daughter, Avery in the stroller. She loves it and I get a great workout! I want to show the world how to appreciate their body and feed it real, wholesome food while moving more throughout the day. In doing so, everyone would be healthier, happier, and we'd all live in a better place as a result. I blog mainly about my life as a stay-at-home dad and frequently include reviews, participate in campaigns, and share my thoughts on fitness and nutrition. If you ever have any questions or thoughts to share, please reach out as I'm always open to listening or helping others however possible. That is, when I have free time since Avery is and my wife are the number one priorities!

NuttZo Breakfast Talk: Avery & Daddy Ep. 5

This episode of the Avery & Daddy Video Blog has been brought to you by NuttZo. They did not know I made the video and never asked me to, so therefore I was not compensated in any way. That said, I am a NuttZo Ambassador and love everything that goes in the tasty nut and seed butter as well as what doesn’t.

I just felt like going over the parts of the face that Avery is currently pointing out. As you’ll see in the video, she “nose” (#DadPun) not only her own face, but other faces too. She’ll look clear across the room to point out my pointy nose. She’s so sweet.

Since it happened to be around breakfast time, and she must eat or, well…..it happens, I figured we’d share her favorite combo of NuttZo with cinnamon and banana.. I guess we all get hangry, and when there’s NuttZo involved, there’s no waiting.


As always, hope you enjoyed our Vlog and Avery’s mad facial recognition skills, not to mention her ability to make Nuttzo and banana disappear.

Have a wonderful Friday and even better weekend!

What facial features did your kids start noticing first?

Do you love peanut butter (NuttZo is better) and banana?

Ever have a peanut butter, banana, and honey sandwich? Bliss!

The Parent-Toddler Communication Barrier

“Avery.” I said in a stern, but not scolding voice, “Please pick up your duck from the kitchen and put him in your basket or I’ll take him away.” Never thought that would be a sentence I’d have to say.

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Avery’s resulting facial expression said it all….

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After repeating myself just to give her another chance and waiting for 5 minutes (felt like an hour!), I had to take the duck and put it on top of the bookshelf.

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You’ll notice the bag of blocks already there from a similar standoff we incurred earlier in the day.

And before that, we received a package at the door so I let her play with the box. I told her as long as she keeps off the couch and doesn’t tear the things off the box, she can play with it. I should’ve known better….

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She also handed me a piece of tape and cardboard strip she tore off. She’s lucky she’s so cute!

This, along with 10,000,000,000 other standoff-type occurrences have become part of the daily routine. Going Mom and I try to maintain composure and do quite well most of the time, but, well, c’mon, patience can only be tested for so long.

Parents, I am sure you know exactly what I’m talking about here. And to think we only have our one, my heart goes out to you with multiple! Your patience must be like that of iron! Or just really good. 🙂

I assume the communication barrier parents face with their toddlers is a commonality we all must experience to turn our hair gray at a faster than normal rate fully appreciate parenthood. It may not be needed (or necessary), but I took it upon myself to create a visual representation of the barrier with a quick video. By simply taking a ball and asking Avery to catch it, you see the barrier in full effect.


What do you think? Did I capture the parent-toddler communication barrier accurately?

It does help to keep calm and politely ask your little one to do as told. Then, once (if) they follow through, be sure to praise them and let them know how good they are. You just might be rewarded with super cuteness!

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Do you have any parent-toddler communication barrier examples of your own?

What ways do you find best to get them to listen better? Or are you still searching?

How Not To Start Co-Sleeping With Your Toddler

Picking up from my last post about the 4th of July 5k, we took off right for G-Ma’s right after receiving our medals and drinking free beer. The beer was good, but I guess I’ve lost me desire to have beer for breakfast.

We were invited to our neighborhood friend’s house to swim just like the last Fourth of July, and we were ready for a dip after that hot run. First, my mom had a chore for me to do which she knew I’d be a sucker for. I love anything that can be called a “workout”, and moving brush from her house to the Caldwell’s fire pit was the task at hand. I made several trips and ran back after dropping off a load (that sounded bad!). It was enough to have the floodgates of sweat flowing down my face and entire body. Time for the pool!

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Glad to have my beautiful girls along to cool off in the water!

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Avery could still care less to pose with a smile for either of us. But get her alone and…

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I don’t know. She’s confusing. As is most toddlers I assume.

We swam, passed Avery around for us all to get in a great upper body workout, and finally went back to my mom’s to eat and attempt a nap. Surprisingly, the wonders of Going Mom’s nursing and loving comfort worked to get the wild wired child to nap.

We kept her up late on the 3rd to see fireworks, woke her up a few hours earlier the next day for the 5k, and took forever until just one nap. Parents of the year here! After nap time, we lounged around and entertained Avery the best we could until it was dark and time for fireworks. Then we went back down to the Caldwell’s to watch the sky light up with bright-colored explosions all around.

My mom’s house is out in the country where fireworks are allowed and neighbors all around apparently felt like they need to throw down hundreds of dollars to celebrate our independence. Fine with me, the light show was brilliant! Unlike last year, Avery watched as they lit up the sky, but she only seemed fairly amused, and only at first.

Tiredness was obvious, but I thought she’d be more into watching the fireworks than she was. We told ourselves “next year” last year, but now we’re saying it again for 2016. At 2 1/2 years old, I’m sure she’ll love them then, right?

Not long after watching the explosions all around, Avery’s crazy-tired mode set in. She was running off into a dark field as Kelley and I took turns chasing and holding her. G-Ma helped restrain the mini deviant as well. It was well past her bedtime (again), and with hardly any sleep and a lonnnngggg day, we took her back to get ready for bed.

Kelley took a bath with Avery since outside everything feel nasty and we were down wind of the giant bonfire. As I mentioned in my post about being scared for the Fourth, we did not have a portable crib this time. Instead, we laid a queen mattress on the floor where Kelley planned on sleeping with Avery.

We’ve slept with Avery before, but that was when she was only months old, and that one time I tried in her crib

Testing out the crib on my birthday.

If you are wondering, it didn’t work. Not in her crib, and again, not for Kelley at G-Ma’s this past weekend.

We followed routine and I read a book before telling my tired wife and daughter good night and I went to another room to read before going to sleep. It was quiet for a couple hours, but just as I finally shut my eyes, I woke up to Kelley holding a screaming toddler and not sure what to do.

Avery had been screaming for a while and nothing my wife offered would console her. Not even the magical boob! I came in to lay on the other side of the floor mattress to keep Avery in between, but she just rolled around scaling over our bodies and falling off at least 4 times. Each time was accompanied by louder screaming and streams of tears.

Not being able to calm our child was upsetting, and Kelley hated not having a solution. She eventually told me to go back to the other room thinking Avery wanted more of her own space. I went back, but sat awake listening to the crying ensue.

Avery kept this up for 4 hours straight. Constantly thrashing around, screaming loudly, and not giving any indication of what she needed. Was it sunburn, bug bites, hunger, thirst, too much change in sleeping arrangements, firework overload, over-tired, teething, or just toddler?

Whatever the cause, I ended up falling asleep on the mattress with them, and Kelley said she watched as our overly exhausted girl sat, got quiet, and slowly fell over to give in to sleep.

So, things not to do when deciding to co-sleep with your toddler for the first time in a long time (or ever) is….

  • do not keep them up late the night before you have to wake them up early
  • do not expose her to an new atmosphere (it had been 6 months since our last visit to G-Ma’s)
  • do not do it on a night when fireworks are going off all around you for hours on end
  • do not let them drink coffee in the late afternoon….or ever

Well, we didn’t let her drink coffee, but really, you should not do that if you want to sleep.

Later that day, Avery woke up bright-eyed and bushy tailed and immediately started chatting away like nothing was wrong. We downed copious amounts of coffee shortly thereafter as G-Ma entertained Avery with a little screen time.

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After several cups, I suggested we do a little workout video which my mom was up for. So we did Cardio Challenge as Kelley kept Avery somewhat restrained in the room with us. But Avery had to join in right after we were done.

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I followed up with a few sets of bench press…

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….and Avery did her own moves on the stability ball.

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She then proceeded to do bear crawls hugs.

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Then G-Ma offered to play with her, but she was not impressed with the dog toy football.

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She did, however, take the ball and give it to Reno, G-Ma’s highly anxious dog, who was in a ball in a cat bed.

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So thoughtful of her. They played around a little more just to get that good love from G-Ma before we went back home.

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Crazy, tiring weekend for sure, but we are all glad we experienced it together. Guess we earned a new parenting badge this 4th of July! Not sure what we’ll do about sleeping arrangements next time, but we have a trip to Colorado next month to see Kelley’s parents, Nana and Papa, so we better figure it out soon.

Kelley found a crib rental service up there which sounds like a good option, but hopefully Nana knows a neighbor who can let us borrow a crib. $15/day for a crib seems too high for my liking! Ha, get it, “high” and “Colorado”….”elevation……no? Whatever…

Do you have any co-sleeping fails to share?

Any successes?

What about tips….please?