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Weekend Recap and My First Donut in Years

Right now, if you know me or have been reading my blog, you might be thinking “What?! Going Dad had a donut after talking so much about eating healthy?!”

Well, it’s not that kind of donut, so you can breathe again; or go on not caring in the first place. 🙂

After an already seemingly long day out with Avery on Saturday, I walked out of the Tom Thumb to find my precious Subaru with a flat tire. Good thing I didn’t have any frozen veggies or anything perishable. Oh wait, I DID! At least Avery thought it was funny….

Flat Tire_Avery Smiling

Luckily, I’ve put in my time working on several types of cars and had the spare (a.k.a. donut) on in no time.

Donut on Subie

So yeah, I’m not a hypocrite because I didn’t have one of those sugary fried dough confections. Of course they taste good, but I simply don’t derive satisfaction from something that’s non-nutritive and even harmful to my body.

Backtracking to Saturday morning, Going Mom and I were treated to a longer than usual sleeping baby which gave us an extra hour’s sleep! Mornings like these have become scarce, but they’re always well received.

When she finally woke, we went about our normal Saturday routine; Kelley fed and changed Avery as I made a batch of chocolate banana protein pancakes. Kelley brewed our black gold in the French Press which we both readily consumed…..maybe too fast. After a couple hours, it was time to grab the Fiskars Reel Mower and kick some grass.

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After kicking the grass, I then mowed it. Since Kelley was home and kept Avery, I didn’t wear her in the Onya, so I wore my 20lb vest instead. Just preparing for when Avery hits the 20lb mark; I’ll be ready!

Several areas in the house have been bothering Kelley, and I told her I’d take Avery out for some errands while she cleaned to her liking. I try to keep a clean house so she doesn’t have to worry about these things on the weekend, but in reality, I suck at most cleaning. Literally, I vacuum a lot.

I’ve been wanting to make an activity board for Avery for a while, so I went to Home Depot to find a few items that would be great for her to play with. I wasn’t exactly sure what all I would find, but door stops were an obvious choice. Every time we set her down in her nursery, Avery will head right toward the door stop and pull it and release.

Door stops should be located in the toy aisle.
I wonder what would happen if I put my face next to it when I let go….

One of our neighbors had given me some extra MDF to use for the board, and bought another piece from the scrap wood from Home Depot. Have you ever checked out the scrap section at a hardware store? You can get some great deals on quality wood!

After we left Home Depot, we went to Tom Thumb where I came back out to the flat tire. The culprit was a shiny screw from all of the new construction around our neighborhood….yay. I’m going to Costco today, so hopefully they can patch it to be good as new….or close to it!

Going Mom was still “going” with the cleaning when we arrived home, but she had a lot done and we just needed to finish a few things. We did our best to keep Avery entertained the rest of the night, which is getting more challenging than usual.

I'm sorry, did you say something?
I’m sorry, did you say something?

After an already long day, we pushed our luck and tried to see if Avery would improve her new crawling skills before bedtime. Nope, she was tired, fussy, hungry, and wanted nothing to do with us. So off to bed she went and with how tired she had to of been, we were sure we’d have another day of sleeping in.

Silly parents, when will we learn? Avery was up talking to herself and moving all over her crib nice and early. We laid in bed, listening to her noises until they turned into cries, at which point I brought her to Kelley to eat.

It was a perfect lazy Sunday morning with cloud covered skies and rain falling steadily. I cooked pumpkin teff and my wife, knowing the key to my heart, brewed coffee in the French Press. We sat outside to enjoy the coffee and watch the rain with Avery. She kept pretty active as Kelley held her squirmy body, but eventually she gave in to her tiredness and was out fast!

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Kelley was able to carry her inside and put her in the crib without waking her, so we did what any couple would do with a sleeping baby; Kelley cleaned and I went for a run in the rain.

6.5 miles plus 31 burpees, pushups, and squats later, I returned, drenched from non-stop rain, to find Avery awake and with Kelley in the kitchen. The nap was short-lived, but both girls seemed to be in a good mood. Phew!

Besides going on a long walk together after the rain cleared, we hung around the house the rest of the day and finished a few chores while having classic Donald Duck cartoons playing on YouTube through our TV. Donald Duck quarreling with Chip and Dale are the cartoons I remember growing up on, and hope to get Avery into watching them more often with us. So far, we’re off to a bad start as she doesn’t understand she needs to face the TV to watch it…

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But I’m not too concerned since we don’t want her having a lot of screen time anyway! Once again, we pushed our limits with our daughter and tried capturing her crawling in action. This time was better than Saturday night, and I went a little video crazy on Instagram. But hey, our little girl is getting the hang of this crawling thing!!

She wasn’t fussy, but it was late, so we called it a night and Kelley laid her down to sleep after feeding her. Now it’s back to Monday and Avery and I are already missing Mommy; hopefully she’ll be home on time!

Even as a stay-at-home parent, I still feel the dreadful effects of a weekend coming to an end just because I’ll be without my wife/partner in crime the next day. But we can’t sit and sulk, instead I’ll celebrate the fact that we had a pleasant weekend together and look forward to another great weekend ahead!

Are you an at-home parent who is still affected by a typical workweek?

Ever have to change a tire, or something worse, in the middle of a parking lot…..with kids?

Sunday Photo Dump: Our Baby in June

Do you NEED something?
Do you NEED something?
Reflecting on life......all 7 months of it.
Reflecting on life……all 7 months of it.
I'm happy. Seeeeeeeee
I’m happy. Seeeeeeeee
Eating cucumber naked is sooooo my thing now.
Eating cucumber naked is sooooo my thing now.
Working out with dad makes me this happy....and awkward looking.
Working out with dad makes me this happy….and awkward looking.

Hey there, welcome to Sunday! How’s it going?

It’s been pretty busy for the first half of the month, and things are finally starting to slow down. We started with being part of an awesome Father’s Day campaign with Oral-B, winning first place in our first race, Avery going to her first brewery, being part of another wonderful Father’s Day campaign with Onya Baby (love their carriers!), my birthday weekend, and celebrating my first Father’s Day the same day Avery turned 7 months.

We’ve had a blast and the month is flying by. Holy crap, it’s almost the 4th of July! Like how I rhymed there?

Anyway, instead of going on about how I feel about food and health, I am zipping my mouth and just laying on the photos of our sweet little 7 month old daughter. Not a second passes where our love for her grows even stronger; even if she screams bloody murder because we broke eye contact with her for a second.

Enjoy the pics and the rest of your weekend!

Just enjoying my carrots.
Just enjoying my carrots.

 

Door stops should be located in the toy aisle.
Door stops should be located in the toy aisle.
You can't be mad at me, I'm too cuuuuuttttteeee!
You can’t be mad at me, I’m too cuuuuuttttteeee!
Hey, why are my pupils so big?
Hey, why are my pupils so big?

6 Ways Playing Halo Prepared Me to Be a Dad

Parenting means trading this sticky grenade for poop. Basically the same thing!!

Ahhh, the days of playing Halo on Xbox! Most of my college days were spent slaying and being slayed in multiplayer battles with people all over the world. And let’s not forget the epic Capture the Flag (CTF) sessions; loved those!

Well, first we used giant, 75ft Ethernet cables to connect multiple Xbox’s before Xbox Live became an option, but either way, it was a blast.

Long gone are the days of playing video games, I don’t even own a game system now, but there will always be a gamer inside of me. I’d be lying if I said I don’t have the urge to play every now and then, but I’d much rather be doing something active as a family so we can set a good example for Avery. I know we’ll allow her screen time and maybe we’ll even get another game system to play together one day, but we won’t let it become a habit.

Over the years of my Halo playing, homework was pushed aside more often than not, and I’m sure I even missed a few classes as a result of staying up too late to play. But that’s not to say I have nothing to show for my countless hours of battling opponents across the globe and going back and forth with smack talk as we sat in the “waiting room” waiting on our game to load. Actually, in retrospect, Halo has taught me several things that have helped prepare me to become a parent.

  1. Hesitation can get you killed. When battling an opponent in Halo, hesitating is a guaranteed way to get pistol-whipped in the back of the head or sniped from afar. This applies to parenting in that hesitation can result in lost opportunity. If your baby is starting to crawl, do you run and grab a camera, and if so, digital or video? You have to think fast, without hesitation, or you’ll miss capture the “first” moment to relive years down the road.
  2. Teamwork is key. When in battle, sometimes you need to leave your ego at the door and help your teammates instead of getting all of the kill points yourself. Or during an intense CTF session, you work with your team to decide who defends your flag while others seek to capture the opponent’s. You never know when you’ll need help from a teammate, so keeping them on your good side is vital. Going Mom and I have our differences, as do all couples (right?), but I know that by having her back and working with instead of against her makes things much easier for the both of us. As a SAHD, I am the guardian of our flag (home and Avery), while Kelley works to capture the flag (earn income). So far, we’re both “winning”.
  3. Experience yields success. The first time I played Halo, I could hardly figure out how to move in a straight line, much less actually shoot something! But over time, maybe too much time, I was on the leaderboard when facing many opponents online and amongst my friends. Practice makes perfect, right? Same goes for parenting; you learn as you go. As every month passes, Kelley and I are just a little more experienced than the last and feel more confident in our parenting skills. Now we are better able to tell if Avery’s cries are purely for attention or if she has a poopy diaper.
  4. Anticipation is education. Educating yourself to know what your opponent will do before they do it is key to survival. If you know one of your enemies has a favorite hiding spot, you get there first and surprise attack him when he arrives. As a parent, it’s important to create a daily routine so your baby learns to anticipate most of the daily activities. Also, when playing with your baby, they learn anticipation when you do things like gently blow in their face/ear, tickle them, or just make a surprise sound with exaggerated facial features.
  5. Winning and losing comes in streaks. There would be some sessions where I was on a role and get several “Killtaculars” (it’s a Halo thing if you didn’t know), and then other days I’d just get killed the moment I respawned. Its life, it happens. As a stay-at-home parent, I have awesome days where Avery is a happy baby, we enjoy time together, and she takes the bottle without fussing. But then other days it seems as if she has a personal vendetta on daddy and screams at the tiniest indication I might set her down, and there’s no way in hell she’s having a bottle. Understanding I’ll have these streaks allows me to move on and simply look forward to the next day without stressing over lost battles. Even though I sometimes still do
  6. Don’t try to be Legendary. In Halo, you can play the campaign on an Easy, Normal, Heroic, or Legendary setting. As you would guess, Legendary is extremely hard and even the weakest alien opponent can do major damage. In parenting, this equates to biting off more than you can chew. Our babies aren’t asking us to be “Legendary”, just give them love and attention and they will love you for it. As cool as it might be to do everything and then some, focus on what matters, your baby and family; other things can wait.

I’m extremely guilty of trying to be Legendary, which results in me getting killed (a.k.a overstressed) as a result. As parents, we are never done learning, but thanks to those years of playing Halo, I’m a little ahead of the game.

Can you attribute anything out of the ordinary to helping you prepare to be a parent? I’d love to hear your input in the comments below.