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Need Time To Yourself In A Busy House? Make A “Dad Cave!”

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Sometimes when we spend quality time with our children we might think that we just need a little moment to ourselves. If we watch TV with our kids and it’s yet another episode of Teen Titans or something that we cannot comprehend we may need a little time to ourselves. When we don’t have a physical space in our home but now the opportunity is coming to renovate the junk room, setting up a “dad cave” might not be the most popular option in the household but if you’re setting up a room for everyone is there something you can do to get some sort of cave for your needs?

Mix Up The Styles

It could very well be the fact that this spare room has to become an office or somewhere for the kids to play away from the living room, but that doesn’t mean you can’t incorporate something that’s for you! There’s plenty of whiskey decor or colorful pictures that can provide a little bit of your own personality. By taking the opportunity to allocate a little area of this room that’s for you means that when you come to use that space all by yourself you can feel a little bit more comfortable.

Adding Some Creature Comforts

You can put things in there that will please everyone. Not everybody has the luxury of a spare room so there will be a lot of debate as to what will go in there. Crowd pleasers are the usual items of furniture like couches. But if there’s not enough room for a long couch you can set up an armchair and a footstool so you can take the opportunity to relax. You also need to think about lighting. Making the place nice and bright will help if you are doubling the space up as a home office. Installing a dimmer switch gives you the opportunity to create mood lighting so you can turn this space into whatever you want.

Renovating The Basement Or Garage

If you really feel like you need to have some sort of dad cave you might want to think about renovating the garage or the basement because they are not particularly popular rooms. You can make plenty of space in your garage by utilizing Slatwall Systems to get most of your items off the floor and neatly hanging up. A garage can be cold in the middle of winter and a basement might not be easily accessible. This gives you plenty of scope to make it a bit more to your style. Renovating these spaces can be a bit more expensive, especially if you want to install insulation, but with somewhere like the basement you’ve got more scope to put things in there that don’t suit the rest of the house. For example, if you wanted to put in a pool table or a space for your hundreds of video games, this is the perfect chance! But make sure that both spaces are safe first. It would be a good idea to check out some finished basement ideas so you can see what appeals to you and how you can incorporate that into your basement design.

Dad caves are few and far between, primarily because they end up being taken over by the rest of the family. Compromise is the name of the game but if you want to set up somewhere that feels like your space you can always try these options.

8 Things Dads and Kids Should Experience Together

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Calling all dads: It’s not rare to want to spend more time with your kids one-on-one (or two, or three…) While many families spend time together regularly doing things like eating dinner, going grocery shopping, or attending family events, outings with just dad and the kids can seem few and far between. With busy schedules, contradicting interests, and a lack of ideas, it can feel nearly impossible to plan fun things to experience with your children. But, fear not! We’ve compiled a list of ten things all kids and dads should experience together to give you your next Saturday plans.

  1. Daddy-daughter dance. Sure, this one is a no-brainer, but seriously! If you’re a dad who happens to have at least one daughter, the daddy-daughter dance is a must-experience for both parties. It’s a night to dress up with your little girl and take her out on the town, maybe even teaching her some cool moves. It’s an excellent way to bond with your daughter in an environment specifically set up just for the two of you – and you’ll leave with absolutely precious memories.
  1. Shopping for school supplies. Not to stereotype, but more often than not, it’s moms taking their kids shopping for school supplies. Whether it’s because they had snatched the list out of the mailbox first or simply know where all the best discounts are, convincing Mom to sit this one out and allow you, as a dad, to take your kids shopping for school supplies, is an excellent way to start important conversations about school and (literally) invest in their next school year. They’ll leave knowing you care about their academic performance, and think of you every time they pull out their new favorite notebook.
  1. Learning to ride a bike. Every kid has to do it – through tears, falls, cuts, and scrapes, learning a bike is total dad territory! It’s a symbolic experience because you – who have always tried to protect your kids from harm and do things for them – must literally push them off and let them try something new for themselves. Though it may be hard to let go of the handlebars at first, this experience will teach your kids that you believe in them – and help you realize just how capable your little babies are.
  1. Carving a pumpkin. Pumpkin carving is a Halloween favorite, and for good reason! It’s messy, it’s spooky, and you can even get some yummy pumpkin seed snacks out of it. This is a great experience for dads and kids because you can encourage their creativity and help bring their vision to life. Once all is said and done, you will have a finished project that you both can take pride in having created together.
  2. Camping. What better time would there be to teach your kids all your survival skills? Okay, maybe you’ll only be cooking s’mores, but camping is a great way to get away from distractions of the technical modern world and simply be with your kids. From sleeping under the stars to starting fires for dinner, it will be an experience neither you or your kids would trade for the world.
  1. Learning a sport. Playing catch is an easy way to spend time bonding while learning an important skill and doesn’t require a lot of equipment. For instance, you can get all of your baseball hitting equipment delivered right to your house. But, whether it’s baseball, softball, volleyball, or golf, teaching your child a sport creates a bond by giving you two an activity you can enjoy together for years to come. The relaxed and casual outside atmosphere is perfect for teaching your kids the harder lessons of sports, like perseverance and confidence – and, of course, having lots of fun. Keeping positive is an essential during this activity, and free courses like this free positive parenting class can help you do just that, making for an excellent day at the park.
  1. Reading a book (a long one!) Reading to your kids is an amazing way to bond with them, even after they can read for themselves. Starting a chapter book neither of you have read and reading a chapter aloud to your children every night before bedtime is a great way to establish routine and give you something in common to be excited about. What will happen next? They’ll be looking forward to your next late-night reading session to find out.
  1. Going to dinner. There’s something to be said for taking your kids out to a special dinner, whether it’s somewhere homely or a fancy restaurant. Not only will you give Mom the night to herself, but you’ll be able to physically sit down with your kids over a good meal and really talk to them about their lives. As they grow older, these opportunities will dwindle, so take advantage of them while you can!

As you can see from our list, having amazing experiences with your kids does not have to be difficult, break the bank, or be intimidating. There are hundreds of activities you can do over the years that will create a strong bond between you – and give you both sweet and fun memories to cherish. 

Comment down below with your favorite memory with your kids or with your own dad – what made it so special?

Sacrifices Great Dads Make For Their Kids

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As a young man, the emphasis was on doing what you wanted to do. In many ways, you could say you were selfish and proud. After all, life is for the living when there are no responsibilities. Now you’re a father, it’s no longer acceptable. The family comes first, and that means the children.

But, finding the right balance is difficult. You don’t want to be the boring old man who sits and watches TV all week. So, how does a dad know what to sacrifice and what to keep?

The answers are underneath for those who need guidance and reassurances.

The Old And The Young

Just because you’re in your forties and fifties doesn’t mean you don’t like watching football with the guys and drinking pitchers. And, every now and again, it’s okay to see how many wings you can eat in one sitting at the bar. But, the lifestyle of going out and drinking for every match should be a thing of the past. To begin with, guys from previous generations can’t keep up with the young kids in the drinking stakes. Secondly, quality time with the family is more important and enjoyable, especially when the kids take an interest in the sports you love.

Easy Rider

Back in the day, you loved riding the hog from A to Z and back again. You couldn’t get enough of the wind flowing through your hair and the adrenaline spike it caused. To this day, you still love to take out the chopper whenever possible, to the dismay of your wife and kids. And, they are right: it’s time to retire the motorcycle. You may never have had to hire a lawyer to represent your injury case before, but it doesn’t mean bikes are safe. It could happen at any time and you’ve got more to lose now. Dads, for the sake of their kids’ futures, should stick to driving minivans.

Mean Greens

Now that you’re married and have kids, it’s time to let go a little and enjoy middle-age. The problem is cholesterol: it’s hard to keep it down as your metabolism slows. So, eating junk food and not putting an emphasis on your diet may shave years off your life, time you could spend with kids and grandkids. There’s no need to become a veggie or a vegan, yet dads should keep track of their calorie intake. In particular, salt and refined sugars as they are leading factors in the onset of heart disease.

Dream Job

Parents need to have lives too, and fathers should enjoy their career and get the most out of it as possible. But, when it impacts the family is when things start to get tough. A dream job is something you worked for your entire life, yet is it worth uprooting the kids and disturbing their lives? A move will have a lasting effect on them and it’s something to consider before saying yes.

Anyway, isn’t your dream job to be the world’s best dad?