The choice to spend less time blogging about life as a stay-at-home dad and more time being a stay-at-home dad is proving to be a wise decision. There are so many wonderful things to do with your kids, and most don’t require much effort at all.
Being present with your child when possible makes a world of difference. I know many parents work and have to have someone watch their kids all day, but the little things matter and make a big impact on your relationship with your children.
Here are five things to do with your kids starting today that are simple, but will leave a lasting impression which will strengthen the parent-child bond.
Tell them you love them. No matter when, where, or the time of day, just blurt it out “[Insert child’s name], I love you.” They may not be old enough to truly understand or maybe they’re older and will roll their eyes, but those three words are more powerful than any of us know.
Give them a hug. Combined with number one, this will beat buying them the coolest toy on the market (only to become obsolete in a few months) and help you connect with your child on a new level. Hugging increases oxytocin, known as the cuddle hormone, and works great with your partner too.
Read to or with them. Find a book, magazine, or just something with pictures to look at with your kid. Read or explain the pictures to them and ask them to point out certain words, letters, or pictures. If they need help, try giving clues first and praising them once they find the right thing or let them know it’s okay if they don’t and the important thing is that they tried. Knowledge is power and books are full of it!
Simply sit beside them. Have a chat, ask them how they are doing (even if they can’t respond), play with blocks, describe your surroundings, or just embrace them in silence. Your presence will mean the world to your little mini me. This can be your fallback plan if reading doesn’t go so well or combined after you’re done reading.
Go on a walk. If they’re still too young, push them in a stroller, but just getting outside with your little one has lasting benefits for the both of you. As a fan of keeping active, going on walks creates a healthy habit at a young age and is a perfect activity to do as a family. Fresh air promotes a sense of freedom and just makes you feel good. Depending on where you walk, it can be fun to explore new places or see familiar faces to socialize with.
Whether with your partner or not, these will stand the test of time as effective things to do with your kids to let them know you’re there for them and love them. Hopefully these easy tips give you something to do with your kids today, tomorrow, and every day. Going Mom and I do one or all of these every day and our family is stronger as a result.
When did you first realize your kid was growing up? As first time parents, Going Mom and I never knew what to expect when the realization that our little girl was truly growing up hit us. But now, as she approaches her third year of life, it’s hitting us like Joe Frazier’s left hook to Muhammad Ali in “The Fight of the Century”.
She went from a needy blob of cuteness, to fully functional tot in what seems like the blink of an eye. It felt like forever back then, but now here we are, trying to keep up with her full sentences (including plenty of back talk), constant questioning, and inability to sit still for even a second. No kidding, watching her eat at the dinner table has us stressed out and she falls off her chair several times each night.
This sudden “left hook” has made me rethink what I do each day. I always enjoyed blogging, but it was much easier when our little human couldn’t talk or move that much. Now she’s more mobile than most adults and full of requests to play with her.
Before, blogging time was easy to find, but now, between cooking every day, cleaning, working out, and playing with her, there’s not a lot of time left to blog.
When I do find time, I notice that I have lost much of the passion I used to have. I feel guilty knowing I could be doing something else for/with the family or simply reading a book. I miss reading books. Our daughter growing up has helped me to come to a simple conclusion, something’s gotta give. Another stay-at-home dad who blogs as the Sunshine Dad speaks a lot on the same thing in his post, I Was Wrong. Five Kids Is Tough. While I would like to correct “Is” to “Are”, sorry Mike :), and I only have one kid, I share his feelings.
Social media has always interested me, and I plan on sharing plenty of our life experiences on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, but full on blog posts will be drastically reduced. I’m always up for sharing a healthy recipe or reviewing healthy food/products, but will not seek them out as much as before. Again, look for all of my favorites on my other social media pages.
Yes, I too feel as if I have some growing up to do, and this precious time with my beautiful wife and daughter means way more to me than blogging. I know I’ve spent too long trying to think of that next good topic to write about or how to spin a story, but for what? Nothing is as important as spending time with loved ones, so that’s what I’m doing.
You might wonder why, then, I took the time to write this post to the few followers I have. Blogging has always helped me express my feelings, and letting it out there helps tremendously. I feel better after just writing the words above and will leave it at that. This is not the end, just a notice that I’m redirecting my focus on other things/people. Any posts will be short and geared more towards sharing things I’ve ready in the health and fitness world or just a funny pun.
As a side note, I’d like to spend more time designing fun shirts with puns and pictures in my store on Skreened; appropriately named Going Dad. And I’ll leave you with a picture of my little girl and her Daddy (that’s me) rocking my first creation I spent a while designing. If you like it, please feel free to order one for yourself and little ones too!
The trip to the Travaasa Resort in Austin, TX with my lovely wife sans kid was a much needed break from parenting to better focus on just us. We love Avery more than life itself, but couples need that time alone to hold a real conversation and enjoy each other’s presence.
We had plenty of wonderful, unbroken conversations on the way down and all weekend. But that’s not all, we also indulged in quality drinks, for starters.
Going Mom and I rarely have alcohol these days, but champagne is her favorite. As for Going Dad, I prefer sipping on scotch or vodka. I just happened to bring along a nice 18 Year Macallan for our 9 year anniversary celebration weekend so I didn’t take any of the precious bubbly. Happy wife is top priority!
We had dinner reservations for both nights we stayed at Travaasa and that first night found us eagerly awaiting for a good meal. Being ones who go out to eat maybe once every two months, the first obstacle would be inspecting the menu for food worthy of our bodies and playing 20 question with the server on how everything is prepared.
This is usually a difficult task (for me, Going Mom isn’t as bad), but they had taken notes prior to our arrival and expected our special requests. Turns out Travaasa sources most of their produce right from their own organic gardens on the premises and obtains meat/fish from local, sustainably raised farms/practices. I was in foodie heaven!
The fresh produce was my favorite part of the dining experience at the Experiential Resort, their okra, in particular, was wonderful! Crisp, fresh, and delicious; I couldn’t get enough. And for breakfast, I just asked for a giant plate of mixed veggies which is exactly what they provided.
I can’t say eating just veggies can get you very far, but I made up for it with a healthy dose of protein from avocado (thanks to Kelley for having me bring it along), wild-caught anchovies, and some Mary’s Gone Crackers Super Seed Crackers.
With food and drink obstacles out of the way, we had a few physical obstacles to tackle during our stay. Hey, get your mind out of the gutter, I’m talking about Travaasa’s Prickly Pear Challenge Obstacle Course.
From the site:
At 35 feet in the air, you’ll discover your inner strength as you walk across the cables and telephone poles of our high ropes course. Begin at the Cob Web, then progress over Raider Bridge and through the Flying V to navigate Double Trouble. The linear progression of the course culminates with a fantastic reward: a 250-foot zipline flight soaring over the tree tops of Texas Hill Country.
I’m no super adventurer mountain man, but I enjoy these things and really don’t let heights get to me too much. My wife, on the other hand, she’s not a fan of testing gravity, and although she was adamant about completing the course, she didn’t try to bottle up her fear.
But my fearless bride made her way through all of the obstacles and we met at the end to zipline down together. We met another couple enjoying time away from their little one who took a few pics for us.
And then down we went.
After the shaking wore off….a little…..I wasn’t sure if she’d be up for the other Experience we signed up for, The Giant Swing, but just like Tom Petty, she too, Won’t Back Down. They weren’t kidding about it being a Giant Swing!
We could choose how high to go (all the way, duh!) and pulling the string had to be done by one of the swingers (ha ha). Without hesitation, Kelley let me know I would do the pulling which was fine with me.
We were up and down in about three minutes, including the back and forth swinging, but it felt longer. I’m sure my wife would agree. But she still wore that pretty smile on her face, so all was good in the world.
There are several experiences always going on at Travaasa, but we had done the ones on the top of our list and rainy weather put a damper on the others. I was eager to satisfy my need to move for the day, but that rain killed my plans for the bike pump course I was considering.
Just as I was ready to accept keeping the activity level low, we ran into the couple that took our picture earlier. They were both drenched in sweat so I had to ask for the details. Apparently, there’s a Travaasa Challenge where you run six times around the paved road of the resort which equates to a 10k or 6.2 miles. Once complete, you get a shirt.
I haven’t run in a long time due to a lingering stress fracture, but when it comes to free shirts, I must do it! Going Mom agreed to walk one loop as I ran and then she cheered me on as I passed each time. I needed to see her with each completion of the loop, the hills in Hill Country are no joke. A steep grade down to 730 ft and a steep grade up to 980 ft all within half a mile. Quadzilla!
Rain came down as I completed my last lap and entered the lobby, dripping sweat on their floor, requesting my FREE shirt. They handed it to me with a smile.
That night we dined on more fresh produce and delicious fish and meat while enjoying another beautiful view outside. Thankfully the rain stopped to allow us the opportunity.
More rain poured over night into the morning on the day we were to return home. But we held on until the last minute for checkout. You can even stay longer for more experiences, but we did have to drive back and see our little girl. With no planned events for the day, I finally talked Kelley into doing the Travaasa challenge with me. “Just walking” I agreed.
Walking turned into a few strides here and there and eventually into finishing with all running. It took us a while, but the view was spectacular and the company couldn’t get any better.
There was just enough time to collect our prize shirts (I got another for Avery), clean off, and pack up to head home.
The time at Travaasa with my wife of 9 years was more than needed. We were able to reconnect in so many ways and both agree our relationship has grown even stronger. We will definitely return to this adult only resort whether for a celebration or just a quick getaway. Everyone has daily obstacles, some big, some small, but when you have a wonderful partner, it’s easy to overcome them all.
An at-home dad on a mission to keep it real when it comes to food, fun, and raising a healthy, happy family.