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Challenges Of Being A Stay-at-Home Dad

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In many societies, men are seen as the financial support of the home, while women, in addition to several roles, are considered the primary caregivers where kids are concerned. This assertion lends credence to why 51% of Americans believe women should rather stay at home and not fathers. Therefore, eyebrows are raised when a man decides to go against the ‘norm’ to become a stay-at-home dad. Indeed, it does come with challenges, and that’s what you are about to read on. However, the objective is to work through these challenges and become a successful stay-at-home dad. Read further to gain insight on this matter.

  1. Lack of support

Not many men are in the habit of becoming stay-at-home dads, and for this reason, there isn’t enough support out there to provide guidance. As a matter of fact, some opposition you are likely to face will come from members of the extended family who may have grown up in a different era. For example, elderly uncles, aunties, and grandparents usually do not understand why the roles should change where child care is concerned.

Their refusal to understand the role change inadvertently results in a blatant lack of support for a stay-at-home dad. Admittedly, sometimes it’s not a refusal; instead, it’s more to do with a clash of cultural expectations. Moreover, there aren’t many social groups that support stay-at-home dads compared to the opposite gender. Unfortunately, all these elements contribute to the utter lack of support (although sometimes minimal) for these dads.

  1. Depression

Already, staying at home as the primary giver may build feelings of anxiety and, if left unchecked, can spiral into depression. However, child care experts say these feelings of depression can be dealt with when you take deliberate steps to resolve the problem. First of all, be conscious about taking breaks to relax when your partner takes over the care of the kids. Secondly, acknowledge your feelings and if it’s affecting daily routines, seek expert help. If you’re not yet at that stage, there are things you can do on your own to handle it. You can try managing serotonin levels in your body, and one way is with cbd oil.

  1. Isolation

It’s not too surprising that fathers who become stay-at-home dads feel isolated at some point in their lives. They tend to feel lonely mainly because not so many stay-at-home dads are around to share moments. Moreover, it can be very uncomfortable planning playdates only to realize that everybody else is a stay-at-home mom and you’re the only dad among the group. Again, many parent groups are dominated by mothers, making feelings of isolation even more pronounced.

Indeed, raising a family is not the sole responsibility of one parent. Even though certain situations may account for why a man decides to become a stay-at-home dad, avoid letting others’ opinions affect your judgment. At the end of it all, the most important reason for doing it is to be hands-on in raising your children to become responsible people in the future.

I Made the Top Dad Blog List on RankedBlogs.com

I’m not sure how I made it amongst the ranks of other great dads who blog, but I’m there, currently #19 out of 26!

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There are many dad blogs I recognize, and some of the dads I even had the pleasure of meeting in person at The National At-Home Dad Convention last September.

I now have the badge you see above proudly displayed on the sidebar to the left. If you feel like it, please give it a click and vote for my blog. I promise nothing in return besides my continued blogging and gratitude. Well, I guess that is something, so hopefully it’s enough to motivate you for a vote. 🙂

Some days are easier than others when it comes to blogging, and since I’ve reduced the number of days I write a post, I feel less stressed and get to use the extra time with my daughter during the day. Blogging is a wonderful hobby for me, but family comes first…ALWAYS!

If you played a part in helping Going Dad make it on the Top Dad Blog list, thank you. If not, you can vote now or do nothing, no hard feelings either way. Just the fact that you’re here reading this is good enough to me, so thank you for the support to anyone who visits!

Hopefully I offer more helpful reviews, healthy living tips, and fun workouts for any level to keep you coming back. Have a wonderful day and see you again soon!

Get Them Talking: Six Ways to Develop Early Vocabulary Skills

I wrote the post below over a year ago, when Avery only made a lot of noises, but now she’s starting to communicate A LOT to us and I know these tips helped. Going Mom and I have worked on all 6 ways to develop early vocabulary skills consistently which created the walking, talking, crazy talking little girl we have today.

Since they worked so well for us (and still going), I wanted to share this post again to help anyone in the same position. Parents, enjoy the tips and get your little ones talking sooner rather than later. Trust me, them letting you know when they pooped is more than worth it!


Me: Hey Avery, are you hungry?

Avery: ……..

Me: Okaaayyyy, how about we try walking?

Avery: …….

Me: What’s wrong, did you poop?

Avery: ………

And so on and so forth. Thus is the typical conversation most parents have with their babies.

When you start life as an at-home parent your infant, silence is inevitable and expected. Sure, there’s crying and cooing, but unless you’re caring for other kids at the talking age, you have no one to actually converse with when at home.

We only have one kid, so it’s just Avery and me spending every day together, learning and growing along the way. I love it. It’s fulfilling, rewarding, better than sitting in an office (to me), way better than daycare (financially and physically), and it sometimes drives me INSANE!

Oops, did I say that? It’s not when she’s extremely fussy and screaming out loud, or when she’s pulling out my leg hair as I’m trying to cook meals for day; it’s the silence. Crying, I can take, but sometimes it gets quiet, a little too quiet.

Don't mind me, I'll just sit here and stare.
Don’t mind me, I’ll just sit here and stare.

As I first mentioned, it’s expected from an infant, but at a year old and close to making actual words with her babbling, it’s just awkward when she turns silent. I’ll be working in the kitchen as she’s happily pushing her boxes across the floor (yes, we’re classy) or we’ll be playing in the front room, but all too often, she turns silent and stares into space.

I know you’re thinking, “Must be poop!”, and I used to think the same, but that’s usually accompanied by grunting and a strawberry-red face. I’ll check anyway because you never know (right?), but 8.3 times out of 10, there’s no poop in sight……or smell.

Luckily, there are solutions to most problems in the world, and I’ve found six that help combat the awkward silence as an at-home parent. As she grows, many of these will act as a wonderful base to build upon and hopefully expand her vocab skills and mind.

1. Explain what you are doing. When I’m in the kitchen (it’s a lot!), I’ll catch Avery staring at me as I work. Instead of just carrying on in silence, I’ll explain to her exactly what I’m doing as if she’s a student anxious to jot down all of my notes. I do this for everything from the exercises I do when working out and even during diaper changes. This gives me the pseudo-conversation I sometimes miss and helps keep her engaged in daily activities.

2. Explain what they are doing. Since it would be narcissistic to only talk about yourself, describe the actions your kid is making too. This goes along with number 1 above, and will help them begin to understand their capabilities.

Yes dear, you are accurately portraying Chucky, the killer doll.
Yes dear, you are accurately portraying Chucky, the killer doll.

3. Make eye contact when speaking to your child. In doing so, your child may be more inclined to communicate. Of course, watch what you’re doing too; like changing dirty diapers!! I’ve tried looking into her eyes while explaining how I’m cleaning her bottom and next thing I knew, well, you know. #ParentingFail

4. Read to them often. Even when they can’t stand still and try to tear the pages from your hands as they scream, keep reading! Avery does this to Going Mom and I daily, but trust me, you’ll help build vocabulary skills and maybe even have them reading before others their age. Make sure to choose books with big, bright colors and fun pictures. Moby Dick is not the best book to start with. 🙂

5. Acknowledge their sounds and actions. When Avery started blowing raspberries, we made sure to return the action and let her know what she was doing. Now that’s she’s babbling a lot, we repeat (as good as we can) the string of “words” she spouts out and encourage words like “momma” and “da da”. Lately, Avery has become an expert at sticking out her tongue on queue and it makes my wife and I so proud!

6. Play music. You don’t have to have “The Wheels on the Bus” on repeat, play actual music, whatever you like, and it’ll be fine. This is a big one for keeping sane and having some kind of background noise at all times. Almost every day, I turn on Pandora with a mix of my favorite channels and frequently sing out loud with Avery staring at me in bewilderment. Despite the strange looks you might receive, have no doubt that your kid will pick up on words that help expand their vocabulary. For this reason, I tend to stay away from the Eminem station….

Although you can never fully escape the awkward silence when you’re an at-home parent with only one kid who’s not yet talking, these six solutions will help get you through this time and help build your child’s speech and learning skills as well.

Have you made use of any of these before?

Do you have other tips/advice to share?